boundries

Restoration

May is an excellent month for looking back to see how I’ve been doing with achieving my new year intentions. Well, I can honestly say I’m right on track of restoring my peace and serenity!

The meaning of restoration is bringing back to a former position or condition. Another meaning of restoration is to receive back more than has been lost to the point where the final state is greater than the original condition. I’ve been restoring my peace and serenity by living into my values and holding my boundries by understanding that relationships change when similar values are no longer shared and when people are growing differently. This is normal and okay, its called growth. If a relationship doesn’t align with your values, its okay and healthy to let it go. I’m getting back to my former place and perhaps even greater than my original condition. All of my own personal coaching sessions have been about growth and analyzing what my deepest core values are and recognizing when something has rubbed up against them.

Last weekend, Mother’s Day, I attended a women’s conference with my niece called “Renewed”. It was wonderful to be in the community of other similar minded women all checking in with themselves and being self-responsible for their lives and how they want to live their lives. It allowed me to reflect and take a quick inventory to see where I am and where I’m going.

Where are you with your yearly intentions?

What are you working on?

What would you like to restore to its original condition or better yet, greater than the original condition?

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From People Pleasing to Choosing to Serve

People pleasing is something I grew up practicing.  I thought people would like me if I did what they wanted.  I did things for people hoping it would make them include me, accept me.  I said, acted and dressed just to please.  I did things people wanted me to do even if I hated it or knew it wasn't right.  This people pleasing developed into an enormous mask for not meeting myself.  I was all tangled up in what I thought people wanted me to be and I never got to know myself.  I never met the real and authentic me.  This people pleasing got me mixed up in making bad decisions,  choosing wrong people doing risky things in dangerous places.  It has taken me a decade to "meet" myself and understand my thoughts, emotions and actions. 

Today as a recovery life coach, I choose to serve others. I serve myself by being honest with myself.  I'm meeting myself where I am and knowing who I am.  I set boundaries.  I've learned to say "Yes" to myself more.  Today I discern.  I listen to my instincts and don't allow others to talk me into or out of what I know to be true and right for me.

How can you say "Yes" to yourself more?